Dogs are famously loyal and loving companions. So, it hurts when it feels like you’re not their favorite human—or worse, not even the spare.

So, where do you stand in your dog’s heart? Here are 10 signs your dog doesn’t love you and what to do about them.

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1. Ignores You

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Does it feel like your pup pretends not to hear you calling or casually strolls away when you enter the room?

To make it sting even more, they perk up for other family members while acting like you’re completely invisible.

Disheartening, right? But don’t worry—it’s not necessarily personal. Ignoring you could stem from a lack of trust, past negative experiences, or even confusion about how to respond.

Fix it: Start small. Don’t force interaction. Instead, be the source of good things: treats, walks, and playtime. They’ll learn to seek you out naturally.

Set aside a regular block of time every day for bonding and engaging activities. If they love fetch, bring out their favorite ball. If sniffing is their thing, explore a new trail together.

2. Avoids Eye Contact

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Eye contact in dogs is a sign of mutual trust. If your dog constantly looks away or turns their head when you try to make eye contact, they’re likely uneasy around you. You could also be reminding them of a bad experience in the past.

Fix It: Never force eye contact. To slowly win their trust, sit quietly nearby and reward them with treats when they voluntarily look at you.

3. Avoids Physical Contact

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A happy dog usually enjoys pets. But if your dog pulls away when you try to pet them or stiffens up at your touch, it’s a pretty clear sign they’re not particularly comfortable or trusting.

Along with avoiding physical contact, you might notice other obvious signs of fear, such as:

Stiff posture
Whale eyes (showing the whites of their eyes)
Tucked tail
Cowering when you approach
Tracking your movement
Hiding from you

Fix It: Respect their personal space and watch their body language. If they lean in or remain relaxed, that’s good. If they freeze or move away, stop.

And be consistent with positive reinforcement. Some dogs just need more time to warm up.

4. Shows Aggression Toward You

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Aggression in dogs is a serious issue and often a way for them to communicate discomfort or fear. Watch for these common signs of aggression:

Raised hackles (hair standing up along their back)
Bared teeth
Hard staring
Low growling
Snapping
Lunging

And pay attention to their tail wags. Animal behaviorists note that a relaxed, right-sided wag indicates positive feelings, while left-sided wagging often signals stress or uncertainty.

In some cases, aggression can be linked to an underlying medical issue. Schedule a trip to the vet to rule out any health problems.

Fix It: Don’t punish aggressive behavior—it’ll only make things worse and damage your attachment bond even further.

The best thing you can do is to consult a professional dog trainer immediately. Meanwhile, avoid triggers like loud noises or strangers.

A board-certified veterinary behaviorist can also help decode extreme anti-social behavior and provide behavior therapy.

5. Licks Lips and Yawns

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Lip licking and yawning are stress signals. If your dog frequently does these things when you’re around (not when tired), they’re telling you they’re angry or annoyed.

Fix It: Step back and observe what’s causing the stress. Are you too loud? Moving too quickly? Give them more space and approach more calmly.

6. Sleeps Anywhere But Your Bedroom

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Dogs are social animals. When they trust you, they’ll want to be close to you, even at night. If they actively avoid sleeping in your room, it could mean they don’t feel a sense of security around you, especially during such a vulnerable time like sleeping.

Fix It: Make your bedroom inviting. Feed them special treats there. However, don’t force them to stay. Let them choose to come in, and reward calm behavior in your room.

Read Next: 10 Signs of a Happy Dog

7. Keeps Distance

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Your dog maintains a constant bubble of space between you. They might stay just out of reach or leave the room when you enter.

Fix It: Don’t chase them or force closeness. Drop treats when you pass by to create positive associations. Let them choose when to come closer.

8. Refuses Food and Treats From You

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When dogs refuse food from someone, they’re seriously scared or uncomfortable. This often happens with rescue dogs who’ve had traumatic histories.

Fix It: Place treats on the ground instead of offering them from your hand. Gradually work up to hand-feeding as they become more comfortable.

9. Never Brings You Gifts

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Dogs share their toys and treasures with people they trust. If your dog never brings you anything from their prized possessions, they might not see you as a reliable pack member.

Fix It: Never take their items by force or just to tease. Create safe, predictable interactions around their stuff and play games that involve sharing toys.

10. Becomes Destructive

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Another thing to keep an eye out for is destructive behavior, like chewing furniture or scratching doors.

Dogs with separation anxiety often become destructive when left alone. This isn’t a sign of dislike but rather a way to cope with their distress over being apart from you.

Sometimes destruction is a misguided attempt to get your focus. If you only interact with your dog when they misbehave, they might learn that tearing up a pillow guarantees your attention.

Fix It: Build a strong bond with your dog by setting aside daily quality time for activities your dog enjoys, like walks or play.

Provide mental stimulation through interactive toys, puzzle feeders, and physical activities. And don’t forget to match your dog’s exercise routine to their energy levels.

Final Thoughts

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Do any of these 10 signs your dog doesn’t love you apply to you? The good news? None of these behaviors are permanent.

Dogs are complex social animals with unique ways of showing signs of affection. When your canine companion seems distant, it’s rarely about a lack of love. More often, it’s a sign of underlying behavioral issues or past negative experiences.

With patience, undivided attention, and a commitment to building trust, you can form a deep bond with your furry bestie.

Amanda OBrien

Amanda created and owns The Discerning Cat. A lifelong cat lover she is the proud parent of two Siberian cats, Alexei and Vladimir. She is passionate about understanding cats and different cat breeds.