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10 Signs Your Cat Doesn’t Listen to You – and What to Do About It

Ever feel like your feline friend is giving you the cold shoulder? You’re not alone. Unlike our canine companions, cats march to the beat of their own drum. They’re curious creatures with a fierce independent streak, often leaving us wondering if they’re ignoring us on purpose.

But fear not! Understanding your cat’s behavior is the first step to building stronger social bonds. In this article, we’ll explore ten telltale signs that your cat might not be listening to you, and more importantly, what you can do about it. Let’s dive into the fascinating world of cat communication!

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1. No Reaction When You Call Their Name

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Cats may not always respond to their names as eagerly as dogs, with their wagging tails and wiggly bodies. However, cats usually acknowledge their pet owners in a laid-back way. A head turn, a tail twitch, a subtle meow, or a slow blink are a few common reactions. 

However, if your furry friend completely ignores you when you call their name or try to get their attention, it could be a sign that they’re not feeling connected to you, and don’t listen to you.

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2. Not Responding to Commands

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With their incredibly sharp and sensitive ears, cats can hear three times better than humans—but sometimes, the last thing they want to do is listen to their owner’s commands!

Unlike dogs, who are often keen to sit, stay, roll over, and do anything else to please their fur parents, cats may not always respond to commands unless they want to. Don’t be surprised if you’re met with a blank stare, a cold shoulder, or a walkout of pure indifference from your kitty.

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3. No Interest in Rewards, Like Treats or Toys

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Cats are the most playful of creatures! Tasty treats and colorful toys are often a surefire way to grab their attention. However, if your cat has little to no interest in rewards or playtime, it could be a sign that they’re not interested in listening to your commands.

At times, your cat might want to do something else, like gaze out the window or take a long, satisfying nap on the rug. It could also mean that you aren’t giving them the right rewards, so take time to find the treat or toy that appeals to them the most.

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4. Refuses Physical Touch

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If your cat doesn’t like being held, cuddled, scratched, or petted, it might be a sign that they’re not enjoying your company and would rather ignore you. Cats normally seek warmth, comfort, and close contact from their owners, so being touch-averse can be a cause for concern.

This behavior could also mean your cat is simply not in the mood, and needs some personal space and alone time. Interestingly, felines evolved from a solitary species, and unlike their canine counterparts, they often enjoy spending time on their own. 

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5. Walks Away When You Come Near

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Another strong sign that your cat is not listening to you is if they actively avoid your presence. Does your furry friend consistently retreat to the other room whenever you enter, or vanish at the sound of your footsteps? This might mean they’re uninterested in paying attention.

Your cat might also be keeping its distance because it’s scared or stressed and sees you as a potential threat. Other times, you might’ve upset them by accidentally stepping on their tail or bringing in the scent of another cat that you’ve petted. 

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6. Hides From You

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Cats typically chill on their beloved human’s lap or curl up beside them in bed to relax. If your cat would rather spend its time in hiding and is reclusive towards you, this might indicate that they don’t want to listen to you and would rather ignore your presence.

This behavior could also mean your cat feels safer in its favorite hiding spot or simply doesn’t feel emotionally connected enough to you to seek comfort from your presence. 

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7. Hissing and Aggressive Behavior

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Aggressive behavior like hissing, growling, and clawing suggest that something’s bothering your cat. It may be their way of saying they’re not in the mood to interact or obey your commands.

You may also observe fearful or defensive body language in your pet, such as a high, puffed-out tail or a crouched-down body position. 

This problematic behavior can also mean that your cat is anxious about something, like an unexpected visitor, an unfamiliar pet, or a change in environment.

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8. Less Meowing or Vocalization

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Meowing and purring are some of the most common forms of cat communication. Research has shown that cats can recognize their owner’s voice, including tones that are directed at them. Vocalization is their way of expressing their desire for social interaction with you.

If your cat rarely makes a sound when you’re around and is giving you the silent treatment, it may suggest that they don’t feel like obeying commands or acknowledging your presence.

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9. Destructive Habits

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Cats have an instinct to scratch, climb, and explore their surroundings. 

However, if your cat is engaging in destructive habits like chewing on houseplants, scratching furniture, and knocking things off kitchen counters, it can be a clear indicator that they’re not listening to you say “NO”, and would rather do their own thing.

To redirect this unwanted behavior, provide stimulating toys, a cat tree, or interactive playtime. This can help channel their attention and energy into more positive activities.

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10. Not Using the Litter Box

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One of the most frustrating behaviors for a cat owner is when your feline friend simply refuses to listen to your litter box rules—and ends up peeing and pooping in places they shouldn’t!

However, this behavior isn’t always an act of disobedience from your cat. It can be caused by a variety of factors, including undiagnosed medical conditions and issues with the litter box itself.

If your adult cat is consistently avoiding the litter box, it’s important to investigate the cause and take steps to address the problem. You may want to consult a veterinary behaviorist.

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What to Do If Your Cat Doesn’t Listen to You

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If you’ve noticed your cat exhibiting several of these signs, don’t despair. There’s still hope to improve your relationship with your furry companion and get them to listen to you. 

Here are a few tips on how to get your cat to start listening to you and respecting your commands:

  • Practice every day but keep your sessions short because cats can get bored fast.  
  • Find the right rewards. The trick is finding the perfect treat to get your cat’s attention.
  • Start early. Familiarize your cat with their name and basic commands from a young age.
  • Use a cheerful voice. When speaking to your cat, use an upbeat and friendly tone.
  • Set realistic expectations. Not all cats will train easily or quickly, so be patient.
  • Focus on positive training. Avoid punishment and rely on rewarding good behavior. Use a small clicker to establish rewards instead of using a squirt bottle.

Remember, cats are independent creatures, and they may not always behave in the way we expect. However, with patience and understanding, you can improve your bond and get your feline friend to start listening to you. After all, a happy cat makes a happy owner!

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