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14 Surprising Ways You Might Be Hurting Your Cat’s Feelings

Think your cat’s upset? Well, it probably is!

Cats can get annoyed, bored, freaked out, or totally zen. Believe it or not, they can also feel hurt. Yep, our feline friends are more sensitive than we realize.

So, here are 10 everyday things that hurt your cat’s feelings, so you’ll know how to avoid them. 

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1. Dirty Litter Box

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Nobody likes using a filthy toilet, and your cat is no different—only their reasons are a bit more primal. Cats bury their waste to avoid tipping off predators.

Also, cats spend most of their waking life licking themselves clean, so a dirty box is a major ick. They might even feel betrayed because they depend on you to keep a tidy space for their bathroom needs.

Some cats will try to hold it in or eliminate elsewhere rather than use the box, causing anxiety. To keep your cat happy, take your pop-scooping duties seriously. If you’ll be out for a while, set up several boxes so they always have a clean place to go.

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2. Ignoring Them

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Cats are more social than we once thought. In fact, research says they can form strong attachments with us, much like dogs and children.

That means cats notice when you overlook them, especially when they want to engage—like when you walk through the door after being gone all day.

Meowing is one way they communicate, and they pretty much save this special language for humans. While kittens meow at their moms, adult cats direct their meows at us, almost like we’re their adopted parents.

Cats also use body language to express themselves. A raised tail, slow blinks, or exposing their belly are all signs of affection and attempts to interact. So, acknowledge these signals and respond when you can.

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3. Changing Their Routine

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Is your cat acting out after you moved their bed, changed feeding times, or brought in new pets? Cats are creatures of habit, so even minor changes can be quite unsettling for them.

Also, cats sync their routines around your schedule. So, if you suddenly have to return to the office after working from home, your cat may develop separation anxiety.

Transitions are difficult but sometimes necessary. You can help your cat settle into their new routine by ensuring all their needs are met and providing enrichment.

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4. Teasing and Rough Handling

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You might think it’s funny to scare your cat with a cucumber, but it’s actually mean. Cats are hardwired to be on alert for predators so sneaking up on them triggers their fight-or-flight response, which is stressful and terrifying at the same time.

Plus, cats aren’t plush toys, no matter how floofy they are. Picking them up wrong, squeezing them too tight, or playing too rough isn’t just annoying for them—it can be painful and scary.

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5. Sudden Loud Noises or Yelling

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Cats have super sensitive hearing—much better than ours! What seems like a normal volume to us might sound like a rock concert to them.

And the way they can turn their ears 180 degrees, loud noises are virtually impossible to escape. They might run and hide, or become jumpy and on edge for hours afterward.

To keep them calm, try to keep the noise down. If you need to vacuum or do something noisy, give them a quiet spot to hang out.

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6. Strong Fragrances

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Besides their keen hearing, cats’ sense of smell puts ours to shame—200 million odor sensors versus 5 million!

Imagine how they must feel when we use strong perfumes, air fresheners, or even cleaning products.

Intense scents can give cats headaches, make them nauseous, or stress them out. If you notice your cat pawing at their nose or avoiding certain rooms, your home fragrances might be to blame.

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7. Petting Them Incorrectly

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Many cats go nuts for a good chin scratch. Others are content with strokes on the back. For most cats, spots like the belly and base of the tail are off-limits for being too sensitive.

Additionally, preferences change as they grow older. A cat might love belly rubs as a kitten, but not so much as an adult. So, pay attention to what your cat likes and dislikes.

Start with their chin, ears, cheeks, and top of their head. Then, try other places but watch out for signs of discomfort like twitching. If they don’t seem happy, stop petting them there.

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8. Forced Socialization

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In the wild, cats are both predators and prey. This means they’re always cautious, especially in new situations.

They rely on familiarity to feel safe. Forcing them to interact with new people or other animals scrambles their safety signals.

Create opportunities for socialization, but let them approach new people and pets on their terms. Provide escape routes during introductions. And if your cat’s not feeling it? Respect that.

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9. Scolding and Punishment

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We know how frustrating it is when your cat knocks over your favorite vase or pees outside the litter box, but yelling at them or punishing them after the fact? That’s never going to work.

Cats don’t understand guilt or punishment the way we do. All they know is that suddenly, their human is acting scary and aggressive towards them.

This doesn’t teach them what they did wrong; it just makes them afraid of you. Besides, cats sometimes “misbehave” because of underlying issues, like health problems or changes in their environment. Punishing or shouting at them only adds to their stress. 

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10. Dressing Them Up

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Grumpy cats in tutus might look cute, but your kitty probably isn’t enjoying it as much as you think (read again: grumpy).

Cats are naturally active and agile. Putting them in clothes can restrict their movement and even cause accidents, like getting stuck or falling.

Plus, embellishments like buttons or bells are choking hazards, and a sweater might overheat a cat with already thick fur.

Only put cats in clothes when necessary, like after surgery or for hairless breeds that need extra warmth. Otherwise, let your cat enjoy their freedom and comfort without the fuss of costumes.

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11. Ignoring Their Greeting

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When your cat approaches you with a gentle head bump, a soft meow, or a slow blink, they’re offering affection and seeking interaction. Ignoring these gestures can make them feel overlooked and undervalued. Acknowledging their greetings with a gentle pet or kind words reinforces your bond and affirms their place in your life.​

12. Overlooking Their Health Signals

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Subtle changes in behavior, such as decreased appetite, hiding, or reduced grooming, can indicate that your cat is unwell. Dismissing these signs may lead to feelings of neglect. Regularly monitoring their behavior and seeking veterinary care when changes occur shows attentiveness and care for their well-being.​

13. Skipping Playtime

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Engaging in regular play is essential for your cat’s physical and mental health. Neglecting playtime can lead to boredom and feelings of neglect. Incorporating interactive toys and dedicating time each day for play can enhance their happiness and strengthen your relationship.​

14. Not Providing a Safe Retreat

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Cats value having a secure and quiet space to retreat to when they feel overwhelmed. A lack of such a sanctuary can lead to stress and discomfort. Ensuring your cat has access to a cozy, secluded area where they can relax undisturbed is vital for their emotional well-being.​

Final Thoughts

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As cat parents, the last thing we want is to make them feel sad. So, pay attention to these 10 everyday things that hurt your cat’s feelings.

Remember, the key to your cat’s heart is hidden in the small, everyday moments you share.

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10 Things Your Cat Will Never Forgive

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Cats have a great memory, especially when remembering bad experiences. While still up for debate, most experts believe felines can retain memories for 15 to 20 years!

This practical capability helps them in the wild and allows them to form long-term bonds, recall useful information, and (yes) even hold grudges.

In short, if you’re a first-time fur mom or dad, it’s crucial to remain on their good side, lest you incur the feline’s wrath!

So, here are 10 things your cat will never forgive and you should never do. Some of these are seemingly harmless mistakes, yet have a lasting impact on your cat’s well-being and your relationship.

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10 Myths About Cats You Should Stop Believing

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As a long-time cat owner, I’ve found that many of my friends often have misconceptions about cats. Unfortunately, new cat parents may encounter problems because of misinformation on the internet.

Today, we’ll discuss ten myths about cats that you should stop believing. You’ll be surprised by just how much you didn’t know about your feline companion!

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10 Everyday Things That Hurt Your Cat’s Feelings

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Think your cat’s upset? Well, it probably is!

Cats can get annoyed, bored, freaked out, or totally zen. Believe it or not, they can also feel hurt. Yep, our feline friends are more sensitive than we realize.

So, here are 10 everyday things that hurt your cat’s feelings, so you’ll know how to avoid them.

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